" Sticks and Stones .... "
" Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me . " My but this
is one false statement . Have we not all heard this or said it as a child ? Was it true ?
WORDS......can encourage or discourage...they can build up or tear down..they can
be that one thing that will change someones life forever. And many times it is not a positive
The scriptures tell us over and over how God hates lies , gossip , a heart that seeks evil.
In James 3: 2, 4-6 talks about " taming the tongue " . We are all aware how small our tongues are but the hurt they can cause is massive . And it is a hurt that can never be forgotten . We maybe able to forgive someone for the hurtful words spoken but they are etched in our minds for always .
A small tongue is like a flame of fire..it is full of wickedness that can change your life forever . It can destroy a life by a mere word of hate . People that find the need to use words in this negative way are very unhappy with their own lives . They can come from one who is jealous or seeking revenge or holding a grudge.
If we spent more time THINKING before we speak so many hurts can be avoided. Let me share with you something that may help you to " THINK before you speak ".
T - IS IT TRUTHFUL ?
H - IS IT HELPFUL ?
I - IS IT INSPIRATIONAL ? WILL IT BUILD ONE UP OR TEAR THEM DOWN ?
N- IS IT NECESSARY ?
K - IS IT KIND ? LOVE IS KIND .
Take that tiny moment and " THINK " before you speak.
Our words can Heal .. Proverbs 12:25 tells us " an anxious heart weighs a man down but a kind word cheers him up . "
Growing up I heard a lot of negativity from my father . I would never amount to anything ; I had no talent , did not have good looks...on and on. I was told all I was good for was having kids . For years those words haunted me. I began to believe those words of hate and discouragement. As my children began growing and I looked at them I realized if being a mom was the worse thing that I ever did..well, those words from my past were no longer true for me. I was able to forgive my father for his words. Though the words are still there as a part of my past they do not determine who I am.
I am not a victim of those words but a VICTOR ! they no longer control my life. I chose to not allow someone who was unhappy in his own life to destroy mine. I chose to pray for him and I went to God where I was then able to forgive. Was it easy ? No , forgiveness seldom is yet it was necessary for my life.
Have you ever heard a child say " that was dumb of me " or " I am stupid " ? You can be certain that that child has been told that time and time again. You and I can help change how a child or even an adult for that matter sees themselves . You can use your words as a MAGICAL wand of sorts. God places people in our lives to help build up and encourage . Remind that child that he or she is so precious in God's sights and there is no child of God's that is stupid. I heard this statement years ago " I'm o.k. cause God don't make no junk . " (Please do excuse my poor English. :~) )
Let's together see if we cannot find someone to use the " MAGIC wand " on to transform their lives with peaceful harmonious interactions instead of using words as a weapon that will crush or wound their spirits.
Lastly I have a bit of a challenge since many of you who know me know that I like a challenge. And this one is just for you...if you are struggling with your self-esteem or self -worth do me a favor..which in the end will bless you .
Grab a piece of paper and pen and find a quiet spot. Add some calming music if you like. Then think about you and your life... and write down only words of affirmation about yourself.
It is our thoughts that create the person we are. Write a list of those positive qualities you posses . Perhaps you are healthy , an optimist , great cook ...whatever you see from your soul then write it down. And when done read it , again and again..daily if need be. YOU need to believe in who you are despite what " words " you have heard.
And please , if you are feeling that there is nothing that you can write down about you.. then you write to me and let me help you. You are worth all that God has for you. You are worth positive words . You are worth more than that sill limerick " sticks and stones ".
Thank you for visiting with me again. I will be adding a page of suggested books for you to read and there will be a " tidbit" corner. Please remember that much of this ministry is because of you who are visiting with us. We are blessed to have you a part of our lives and ministry. May God bless and keep you as only HE IS ABLE.
Until Next Time ,
In His Love ,